POST 1: In this week’s chapter the two topics that I found most interesting were the macro reasons on why people divorce and ways that help children before, during and after divorce. To begin this week’s main topic, I found it interesting the macro reasons why people divorce. Some of the macro reasons include divorce laws, economy, military service, cultural values and social integration and lastly technology. The first reason, divorce laws, I had never heard of the term “no-fault divorce.” No-fault divorce laws establish neither partner has to establish the guilt or wrongdoing of the other. Couples can simply say their relationships it’s “irreconcilable” or “incompatibility” as a valid reason for divorce. In the second macro reason, economy, studies have shown that economic hardships can cause distress, which can increase the risk of divorce. In the third macro level variable, military service, it has been shown that people in the military are more likely to divocre because of extended duty and deployment.
The second topic I found somewhat depressing it’s how divorce can affect children and how we can prevent this stress for them. People believe that divorce it’s only stressful for the couples but children undergo through this stress. Children whom are going through seeing their parents divorce can affect the academically, behaviorally, health problems. Although parents are already going through the stressful situation of divorce, parents should do the following so that the divorce process won’t be so hard on their kids. Reassure the children that both parents will continue to love and care for them. Encourage open communication and a great way to express how the kids are feelings. Parents should empathize, parents are divorcing their partner because dilemma between them and not because it was the children’s fault. Parents should maintain an ongoing relationship with their children. Parents should encourage their children should have an open communication with significant people in their lives.
POST 2: The violence in same sex couples topic to me was super interesting. It was shocking to know that same-sex couples are less likely than opposite sex counter parts to physically punish their children. That made me wonder, when their kids grow up and have their own family with their significant other being of opposite sex, will they apply the less violence factor since they grew up that way or are they going to be more likely to be violent? It was astonishing for me to read that lesbian women who describe themselves to be more masculine have encountered more physical abuse and neglect than those who are said to be more feminine. I was not aware that lesbians and gay men experience more neglect and abuse than heterosexuals. Which is alarming to me because on the news or media you never rarely hear that a gay or lesbian women or men got rapped, attacked, harassed etc. Reading this section brought me to more awareness and made realize that it is a topic that we all should be more alert about.
Another topic that I found super interesting and knowledgeable was domestic violence and its cycle. I learned that there is three different phases in domestic violence and they help you determine how bad and how affected the person is involved in this situation. I found it fascinating to see that in 1978 there were thousands of women who killed their abusers but because of the battered woman syndrome they were pardoned. Which the cycle of domestic violence supports that syndrome. The three phases are; ONE: Building phase, TWO: The Acute Battering incident and THREE: Calm also known as the Hooneymooon Phase. The first phase consists of the women justifying her partner, staying out of his way and having hope that he will change. The second phase, the abuser will have a type of mood swing his attitudes will change quickly which confuses the women because she is seeing two different sides of the abuser. The last phase is where the abuser becomes all sweet and kind. Abuser will apologize and say that it will never happen again. All of this is only a few of what I read and learned and it was all so fascinating and super informative because I feel like I am more aware of domestic violence and could use this knowledge to help others.